Resources for Couples

Books and Newsletters

• “Marriage minute” – A daily email newsletter from the Gottmans with relationship tips that take one minute to read.  Subscribe at: https://www.gottman.com/marriage-minute/
• Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Drs. Gottman 
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman 
• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman  
• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
• An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us by Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald  
• Attached: Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure? How the Science of Adult Attachment Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller
• The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, & Validation by Dr. Alan Frizzetti
• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by Dr. David Snarch  

PodCasts

• Better Conversations: Money and Marriage by Derek & Carrie Olser
• Foreplay: Couples and Sex Therapy by Dr. Laurie Watson and George Faller
• Where Should We Begin? By Ester Perel
• Relationship ALIVE! By Neil Sattin

Apps and Games

• Gottman Card Deck App – Virtual card decks with helpful questions, statements, and ideas for improving your relationship. Download at:  https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
• Love Nudge – The app for the 5 Love Languages. Download at: https://5lovelanguages.com/resources/app
• Ungame: Couples version – A deck of cards with question prompts.  Various versions are available on Amazon or other shopping sites.
• Paired – An app with questions, quizzes, and games for couples to connect and learn about each other. Download at: https://www.paired.com/

Online Assessments

• PREPARE/ENRICH – Online relationship assessment that has been used for decades and updated periodically.  Works with local facilitators to review the report with you.  If you do not want to work with a facilitator, you can use the lighter version “Couple Checkup.” https://www.prepare-enrich.com
• The 5 Love Languages – Online assessments which evaluate your styles of love, apology, appreciation, etc. and provide strategies to strengthen your relationship. Take the quizzes for free online: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
• SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) – Developed from research, with emphasis on pre-marital relationships or early marriage, but also works for longer-term relationships. You can take the assessment online and get a report and have the option of finding a local facilitator to walk through the assessment with you.  https://www.symbis.com/